Stories for Our Children

Wednesday, April 19, 2006

What "Sorry" means to a child

As I stepped out of the bathroom, Beth was sitting on the floor hard at work with her crayons and paper. On closer inspection, I discovered to my horror that one of those sheets of paper was THE fax I'd been planning to send to a bank to terminate an overdraft facility I'd been billed for (and which I don't use).

I was so angry I launched into a how-could-you-do-this tirade at the top of my voice, lowering it gradually for effect as I stared my preschooler in the eye. She started melting and sobbing, to which I hardened my heart and asked, "What are you supposed to DO? What must you SAY?"

"Sorry Mummy," she choked. And burst into tears again.

"I want Mummy....!" she wailed, which rather puzzled me; I thought I'd misheard - surely she should be wanting Daddy instead?

"I want Mummy....!" she went again, tears streaming down her face.

"Come here," said I, opening wide the maternal arms. She came, and continued sobbing into my T-shirt as we hugged.

"Mummy still loves you. It's okay. Stop crying now."

At that moment, I remarked to my husband, "It's interesting that at this age, children still want to reconcile with their parents even after doing wrong. A few more years and she might be rebellious and recalcitrant about it."

My husband agreed that yes, this was indeed a moment to be treasured.

I continued as an epiphany struck me.

"Isn't this rather like our relationship with God? When we are close to Him and we do something wrong, we feel bad about it and want to reconcile with Him. But when we are not walking with Him and we do something wrong, we try to hide from Him, as Adam and Eve did in the Garden of Eden."

A moment with a child turned into an eye-opener about my relationship with my Heavenly Father.

Wow.

Thank you God.

1 Comments:

Blogger elaine x said...

.... i just am wondering ....
my daughter is now 6 ... i once got angry at her with the 'how could you do' tirade when a similar thing happened ... truth was ... she had no idea she was doing anything wrong, and truth be told, she did nothing wrong ... she was just coloring ... the wall (or, in your case the paper) was her canvas ...

the shock and horror i felt as i saw her eyes swell with tears, made me realize that i just took her creative energy and crushed it like a bug under my shoe ...

kids are awesome teachers ... i suppose that's why jesus always wanted them around! they remind us of life without judgment or blame ... accepting it from us and returning only love ...

until we lose the judgment and shame we teach them ....

peace & harmony,
elaine
'freedom must be exercised to stay in shape!'

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