Stories for Our Children

Monday, February 21, 2011

Transition to kinder: It's over

Today marked the start of the full kindergarten timetable.

For our family, it meant being very very precise in our routine. No hiccups were permissible.

8 am - leave the house

8.15 am - drop off Miss J at kinder

8.25 am - drop off Miss B, sign in and do reading with class from 8.30-9.30

Was glad and relieved that Miss B didn't have a meltdown when I had to go. I hardened my heart, handed her to the kinder teacher - and left.

When I returned at 12.15, Miss B saw me on her way to her pigeonhole to get her bag, and waved cheerfully.

In the car, she told me she has three new friends: Miss S, Miss O and Mr M.

"Now I like boys," she declared.

A complete 180-degree reversal of her earlier position that she will only like girls and have friends who are girls.

Lovely.

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Friday, February 18, 2011

Transition to kindergarten

Miss J has had an up-down kinder transition.

Day One: wouldn't let go. Had to stay whole session with her.

Day Two: let me go after 20 min. Managed to get a haircut and run some errands.

Day Three: wouldn't let go. Had to be prised off me by teacher. I fled without turning round to see if she was crying.

Day Four: let me go after 30 min, and even gave me a hug and kiss (on the lips).

Next week, the kids start full sessions. She had better be good, because I have reading duty with Beth's class on Monday mornings!

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Development Breakthroughs for the 4 y.o.

Miss J has been a nightmare at swim class.

The last two lessons, she wouldn't get in the water and clung to me like a koala.

I felt like an idiot. All the other kiddies got into the water and had such fun splashing around and playing with the toys, but mine just refused to untangle herself from Mummy.

At $16 a pop, lessons aren't cheap.

After being publicly embarrassed twice, I decided it was time Daddy took over.

I switched Miss J to an evening class and instructed hubby that henceforth, it was his duty to take Miss J to swimming and to make sure she got in the water.

Last night was the first of these evening classes.

Everything went well. Miss J got into her bathers and was actually looking forward to having dad take her swimming.

Then hubby called to say his car had broken down.

We all got in the car to "rescue Daddy", and reached Paul Sadler midway through the lesson.

As usual, Miss J changed her mind about getting in the water, and clung like a koala.

The elderly gent in the group sitting behind me joked that perhaps we should throw her in anyway.

I saw the swim coach signal to a colleague, and soon, a dazzling blonde customer service officer with a megawatt smile came by to greet us and to suggest that with our consent, she would get a colleague to go in the water with Miss J.

The colleague came, a reserved and unsmiling looking girl with a rasher vest marked TRAINEE.

Miss J was finally prised off me and lifted into the water.

I cannot tell you how good it was to see her finally in the water. She turned sideways to give us a look of betrayal (which I noticed but hubby ignored), but she didn't have a meltdown or anything. After a few minutes, she was actually smiling and enjoying herself as the trainee teacher talked to her and played with her.

The rest of the lesson went well and at the end, Miss J climbed out of the big pool (by herself!) and walked over to us with a smile on her face.

I am looking forward to the next lesson to see how she goes.

Hope Miss J is too!

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Monday, February 14, 2011

Kindergarten Transition

On Miss J's first day at kinder, she was clingy and teary and wouldn't let go of me.

On Day 2, she told me, with the air of someone who has thought long and hard about the matter, that I could stay with her for a bit, then I could go.

So I was politely but firmly dismissed after about 20 min, and went on my way, slightly bemused and bewildered by the seeming effortlessness of the kinder transition.

I managed to fit in a quick visit to the hairdresser and the post office before it was time to pick up Miss J.

Her first words on seeing me: "You took a long time. You said you were only going to be gone for a short time but you took a long time!"

It won't be long before I have to turn my thoughts to my own schedule and responsibilities, which have been blissfully cast aside so I could give my full attention to settling her in at kinder.

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Progress in Chinese class

Miss J was a bit distracted on Sat.

Was it because she was sitting with her friend T?

Was it because, as hubby reported, she had to share her books with a new student, a boy who doodled on her page until the teacher had procured him a set of books?

Was it because Mummy turned up midway to change shifts with Daddy, and she got a bit distracted and decided to act up?

Anyway, when I announced today that we were going to sit down and do her Chinese homework together, she showed such glee and enthusiasm as would make a conscientious mother smile.

We dutifully went through the a o e i u yu (that should be a u with 2 dots over it, but I can't type it out), the four accents for each, and the dialogue she had learned for family members and how to greet someone (你好). Was so surprised that she had memorized parts of the 儿歌:

小白兔,白又白
两只耳朵竖起来
爱吃罗卜爱吃菜
蹦蹦跳跳真可爱

As the proverb goes, 好的开始是成功的一半!

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Friday, February 11, 2011

Learning persverance

Beth had her first swim training session on Tue, in preparation for the HX Primary School Swim Carnival selection trials on 22 Feb.

She had plenty of tales to tell afterward. Of how she nearly drowned, but no one noticed her struggling. How the kids behind (mainly the boys) kept pushing and overtaking. And how she had never swum so hard and so long in her life.

All that didn't stop her going back again on Thu.

This time, despite having to take frequent breaks to get her breath, she kept going and was one of the last ones out (she said they were doing sprints). I even had to go to the poolside to remind her about getting ready for school.

There's a couple of kids like her, who are not very strong at swimming but who are nevertheless giving the selection trials a go.

To Beth and all of them, I say: Well done for having a go!

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Thursday, February 10, 2011

First Day at Kinder

Miss J is going through her kinder transition.

In AUS, the educational system is extremely child-friendly.

To cater to kids who may never have been in a school environment, there is a transition programme where kids come in 2, then 3, then 3+ hours each session, with the sessions spaced out (2 a week at first instead of 3) and the class divided into 2 groups. So they get an extremely gentle introduction to school.

From a parent's perspective, it feels like the kids are doing nothing at all.

They wander from station to station, doing play cooking, puzzles, painting, working with playdough, constructing wonderful contraptions with Magnetic Polydron, flipping through books.

No one tells them what to do, but if they run into a spot of difficulty, the teacher or assistant is always on hand to help.

Kinder is also where kids get introduced to routines like where to hang their backpacks, where to place their water bottles and lunch boxes, what to do before sitting down on the mat together (wash your hands!).

There's also an intro to social etiquette - if you want to say something, put up your hand and wait to be called (no calling out); don't be a "space invader" (no sitting too close to another person and touching them or annoying them).

Miss J is familiar with some of these things, having been a daycare kid since 18 m.o. And she does seem able to restrain herself and to act with the required propriety, which is good.

I had thought she would be okay on her own at the first session, since kinder is like daycare.

But she thought otherwise, and wouldn't let go of me.

I ended up staying the whole 2 hours.

Tomorrow she's got a 12.30-3.00 pm session.

Am hopeful she will be more confident by the end of Feb when she's met the rest of the kids and knows the layout of the room and all the routines.

The kinder teacher already has a "job" for me. During the interview, she asked if I know music and play an instrument, and before I knew it, I'd said yes to playing the piano so the kids can sing to nursery rhymes!

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Wednesday, February 09, 2011

Words of affirmation from my 4 y.o.

"Mum?"

"Hah?"

"I love you. Every time. I love you every morning, afternoon and night."

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Tuesday, February 08, 2011

Kumon: Student and Parent Requirements

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Sunday, February 06, 2011

First Chinese Class For The 4 Year Old

5 Feb was enrolment day at Werribee Chinese School.

This year, I had to queue twice, once for New Enrolments and once for Current Students.

We enrolled our 4 yo for the first time, but not without some misgivings.

A school mum whose daughter has been attending the school along with Beth since kinder days advised me to wait a year before enrolling Miss J. Her opinion is that at 4, she's too young to understand what's going on, especially if she can't read/write yet. She says Oz is different from China and SG, where the teachers are strict in insisting that even very young children sit still and pay attention when a lesson is going on. In Oz, she says, kids get away with distracting behaviour and inattention and the teachers are either not fussed or don't want to offend the parents.

So when I spoke with one of the teachers at the school, my first question was is 4 yo too young an age to start Chinese school?

The reply: "All kids start off not knowing how to read/write."

Duh.

When I ventured further to ask what happens if I enrol for the full year but have to take my child out halfway (say after Term 1) because she can't cope, the reply was "It's too bad. You forfeit the remainder of the terms."

Such is the customer friendliness of the Chinese. An Aussie would have couched it in more polite and sympathetic terms.

So I opted to enrol Miss J for one term.

Then came another revelation: Miss J does not qualify for government funding as she is not yet of school age, which is only reckoned from Prep onwards.

So her yearly fees are higher than Beth's: $415 (textbooks included) vs. $295 (ditto).

In all, Miss J's Term 1 fees came to $145, including textbooks.

The next challenge was settling her into her classroom.

We're thankful Miss J had her good friend T with her.

Our families have much in common. T's parents are also SG migrants. T's older brother and Beth are classmates this year (they were classmates as well in Prep and Year 1), so our families have been on friendly terms for a number of years. Miss J gets on particularly well with T. They are both second-borns, extroverted, quick, confident and unafraid.

With T by her side providing a level of comfort and security, Miss J settled in very quickly and stopped asking Mummy to sit with her.

From our positions at the back of the class, it became clear that neither girl could follow what the teacher was saying: she spoke only in Mandarin, with an occasional lapse into Cantonese for the benefit of the Cantonese-speaking student in the front row.

So it fell to me to help them find the correct book, turn to the correct page, translate what the teacher was saying into English etc.

After an introduction to "a o e" in the four intonations, the teacher decided to test each student's understanding. We thought Miss J would surely not be able to understand what was going on, but when the teacher pointed to the board, Miss J correctly answered "a o e".

The teacher beamed, and so did we.

What a moment!

This afternoon, I got out her Chinese books and Miss J insisted on doing additional writing even though she had already finished her homework in class. So she wrote a few extra lines of "a o e" and “一“.

We also read through the names she had learned in class: 爸爸,妈妈,宝宝,婷婷,嘟嘟.

Jie Jie was fascinated enough to lean over to find out what her sister's textbooks contained and to see how much of it was familiar.

Perhaps with both of them feeding off and inspiring each other, they will help each other excel.

And Jie Jie won't feel like she's the only one who's being forced to study Chinese.

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Wednesday, February 02, 2011

Violin/Piano Teacher in Hoppers Crossing

The mums' network does it again.

Spoke to IV's mum this morning. Her daughter, who is classmates with Beth this year, plays both piano and violin. She started at the age of...4!

The mum will be passing me the contact for the teachers, a pair of sisters who teach violin and piano, live on Barber Drive, are very good at engaging child learners, offer yearly concert performances at Westbourne Grammar for their students, and hail from HK.

Tick, tick, tick, tick, tick.

No need to drive all the way to Footscray and back for lessons.

How beautifully God provides!

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Tuesday, February 01, 2011

Is a 4 yo child ready for music lessons?

Having chatted with different service providers, it seems there are two philosophies on the musical readiness of a 4 yo child:
  • 4 years is too young to take up formal instrumental lessons. It is recommended that preschoolers undergo a general music introductory course. See Yamaha's Music Wonderland targetted at the 3.5 - 4.5 age group, Mini Maestros which has branches in many suburbs including Hoppers Crossing/Werribee, and Point Cook's Universal Music School, which offers weekly 20-min parent-child sessions for 4-5 yos.
According to one music school -

I recommend for students of this age to attend Mini Maestros where they are immersed in music in groups. ...

Unless the child has parents who are musicians and are able to guide their child at home regularly in a nurturing way, then I find that this age is too young to take on for private music lessons where we cater in general for older students.

  • Schools like Suzuki believe in developing children's musical (and math and artistic...) abilities from a very young age. Have you seen YouTube videos of very young violinists, like Akim Camara with Andre Rieu or this 4 yo girl playing Vivaldi? Back when we were in PLCMC, the Chinese congregation string ensemble regularly performed on major church occasions. The youngest violinists were only 3 yo, but they carried themselves with such poise and professionalism, and played beautifully too.
My mission is to find schools and/or teachers that share this philosophy.

The only Suzuki-accredited teacher on the register services Sunshine, Footscray, Yarraville.

But I also found a music school that gave me the following response when I asked what they thought of a 4 yo wanting to learn violin -

Our violin teacher, Paul, does take students starting from 4 years of age. He believes in teaching on the violin at this age rather than starting on another instrument. However the method he uses incorporates imagination games and he accompanies on the piano with clapping games etc...

He also teaches piano so if for any reason the violin wasn't suitable for your child, we could swap over for a term or year, as assessed to be appropriate.

Hubby is not impressed by the teacher's credentials: "familiar with both the Suzuki method and AMEB grades" doesn't have quite the same cache as being Suzuki accredited, and "has achieved 8th grade on piano and violin" - "But you have a diploma! You can teach too!"

Ahem.

Which brings us to a whole different issue: does being qualified on paper make you a good teacher?

Of course not.

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